{"id":2011,"date":"2022-11-04T06:00:01","date_gmt":"2022-11-04T06:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/suparnaway.com\/?p=2011"},"modified":"2022-11-04T08:37:30","modified_gmt":"2022-11-04T08:37:30","slug":"who-says-you-cant-always-get-what-you-want-you-can-more-often-than-not","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/suparnaway.com\/who-says-you-cant-always-get-what-you-want-you-can-more-often-than-not\/","title":{"rendered":"Who says you can&#8217;t always get what you want? You can, more often than not."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Once in a while I&#8217;m hit (in the face) with a simple notion that is so profound it makes me say the perfunctory &#8216;but of course&#8217;. This one by Toby Sinclair is one of those. I&#8217;m going to share it verbatim as it was shared with me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For those who don&#8217;t know <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tobysinclair.com\/\">Toby Sinclair<\/a>, he is worth following. A software developer turned coach, his website offers summaries of books worth reading, an interesting blog and some useful tips if you are a leaders. And of course I am promoting another coach, I think his content is good. Check him out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the meantime, here is what he says about getting more of what you want:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table is-style-stripes\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>How to get more of what you want<\/strong><\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table is-style-regular\"><table><tbody><tr><td>I met my hero. Here\u2019s how it went down:I&#8217;m coaching a leadership team in Buenos Aires. I wake to screaming fans outside the hotel. Confused, I stroll to breakfast. I sip coffee. Then I see. The band I adore. Sitting a few meters away. Radiohead. A frantic Google search. They are playing this weekend. Tickets SOLD OUT. Damn. I need to get to that show. How can I get what I want? I have options.<br>Option 1.I can tell them.\u201cI want tickets for your show.\u201d<br>Direct, but they might think who is this crazy stalker?<br>Option 2I can ask.\u201cCan I have tickets for the show?\u201d<br>The type of question most people ask. But it\u2019s a bad question. It puts people on the spot. Forcing a Yes or No. It\u2019s usually asked with a begging voice. Can I\u2026.? Pretty please!<br>Option 3 I can ask a better question: \u201cHow can I get tickets to the show?\u201d This type of question works because: It\u2019s an open question.<br>The key word is \u201chow\u201d It gets them to solve your problem. It demonstrates genuine curiosity. I take option 3. The result. 2 x VIP tickets. To get more of what&nbsp;you want, take option 3.<br>How can I get a pay rise?<br>How can I get a promotion?<br>How can I get an upgrade?<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Toby Sinclair<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Getting what you want more often than not calls for a tweak in how you ask for it. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":2012,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[16],"tags":[32,35,34],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.12 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Who says you can&#039;t always get what you want? You can, more often than not. - The Suparna Way<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Getting what you want more often than not calls for a tweak in how you ask for it. 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